Self-esteem flows from one’s self-concept. So what is your self-concept?
The idea or mental image you have of yourself and your strengths, weaknesses, status, etc.
Your self-concept goes everywhere with you and affects everything that you think, do or experience. There is no escape from it except the temporary ones of mind-numbing drugs, or sleep.
How your self-concept comes into being
Our identities are formed in a haphazard process of trial and error while putting together the good and bad experiences that we have along the way of growing up. Input from parents, teachers and others further shape our self-concept. Some of us get lucky and end up with a self-concept that works reasonably well while others were not so lucky. Even the luckiest among us are operating with a self-concept that can be greatly improved.
Beliefs and your brain
Your brain is a goal-seeking device that operates in line with your beliefs. Your beliefs are the guiding system that determines what you can and cannot do. Your successes and failures.
If your self-concept is made up of your beliefs about yourself can you see how important those beliefs are? Can you also see that much of your self-concept is probably based on the beliefs of a child?
Can your self-concept change?
The good news is that your self-concept can be updated to reflect your capacities as an adult. In NLP we have a process that works very successfully for this. And, with some guidance, you can learn to do it for yourself. Or guide your children to develop a healthy self-concept.
How to change your self-esteem?
I am offering a short structured course (4 sessions 1/1 ) during which we will update your beliefs about yourself and add any new belief that should form part of your self-concept.
We will also align your values with your self-concept and this will make it easy for you to act in your own best interest when the opportunity arrives. Bye, bye procrastination!